THE HATE U GIVE

“Sometimes you can do everything right and things will still go wrong. The key is to never stop doing right.” The Hate U Give is an important powerhouse of a novel that never wavers in its intensity or message. Initially I read this book to gauge whether it would be right for my boys - but was immediately drawn in myself by this unique and heartfelt account of racism and police violence.

Sixteen year old Starr lives two distinct lives: one with her family in the poor black neighborhood where she lives, and one at the privileged, mainly white private school she attends. When her childhood best friend is killed by the police and she is the sole witness, the aftermath and her decision whether to speak out may threaten her family, her friendships and most of all her own identity. It’s beautiful and powerful to watch Starr’s voice and confidence evolve, as she learns who to trust with her feelings, who to let share her anguish and confusion, and who to let go. I was especially touched by Starr’s push and pull with her parents, as she asserts her independence but still needs their gentle affection and comfort as much as ever. This book invites a true examination for all of how racial bias - in the form of lethal violence, subtle remarks and everything in between - shapes the world around us.

The Hate U Give features a memorable moment of levity as friends debate perspectives on macaroni and cheese. Full meal or side dish? Box or oven? Breadcrumbs or no? Almost fifteen years of parenting and I suddenly realized I’d never made homemade mac ’n’ cheese. Inspired by THUG, and the author’s mac ’n’ cheese Instagram post, that changed tonight … and I may never go back!